Wednesday, October 8, 2014
Day 89 of 100 Days of Good Karma.
While picking up the kids, one of the parents asked me a question about treatment. I forget now what the question was, but she followed it immediately with, “You don’t have to talk about it if you don’t want to.”
“That’s okay,” I said. “I don’t mind talking about it.”
And I don’t.
But I certainly understand her hesitation. Before I was diagnosed, I had the same hesitation.
I remember how awkward it was to ask someone about cancer. I know now that the awkwardness was all mine.
Now that I’m on the other side of the conversation, I wish people would ask questions more often.
When people don’t ask about it, I feel like I have a giant red ‘C’ floating over my head.
When people do ask about it, I feel like I’m just another perfectly normal person with a problem.
And let me tell you, I prize that ‘normal’ feeling above all else these days.
Today’s silver lining: The people around me who don’t treat me any differently. I love them for this.
At some point in your life, you will probably talk to someone who has cancer so I’d like to offer a few tips when the topic comes up:
Now I wouldn’t recommend finding the nearest bald stranger and pouncing on them with questions of diagnosis and treatment. That’s crossing all kinds of social etiquette lines.
But if you have a question for me, please ask.
I might not answer every question, but I certainly think it’s okay to talk about it.
If you keep questions respectful, the other person will probably appreciate that you cared enough to ask in the first place.
What’s your silver lining today? I love comments!