• Another 100 Days of Good Karma: Day 137 (Dealing with Fear and Anxiety)


    Tuesday, November 25, 2014

    Run/ Walk/ Bike/ Elliptical (Today:  0.00 miles;  Running Total: 53.55 miles)

    Day 137 of *Another* 100 Days of Good Karma.

    I am learning to deal with a lot of fear and anxiety.  I live with fear every day.  Fear of the next treatment and the misery that comes with it. Fear that the cancer could come back. Fear that I might someday have to do this again.  Fear that treatment won’t work if the cancer does come back.

    I’m not a mental health professional.  I can only speak from my own experiences.  But these are five tips I use to deal with fear and anxiety.

    Talk to someone.

    Before having cancer I’d never spoken to a counselor.  Now I don’t know how I’d get by without one.  Having a sounding board is invaluable.  Someone you can go to and leave the mental garbage with.

    Deal with what’s in front of you first. 

    I try to focus on the next milestone, whatever it may be.  Right now that’s the next chemotherapy treatment. There will come a time when the next milestone is surgery, and after that radiation.  But I have to deal with them one at a time or I get overwhelmed.

    Recognize when you’re overwhelmed.  Take a time out if you need it.

    Before cancer I would get overwhelmed, but I’d push through it and just get things done no matter the cost to myself or my mental health.  But no matter how hard I pushed back against the overwhelm of cancer, cancer always won.  Now I recognize when I am overwhelmed and need to take a step back.  The next time you’re overwhelmed, give yourself permission to take a walk, go get some coffee, take a break, just get away.

    Get adequate rest. 

    I get very anxious and edgy when I’m hungry or overtired. Getting enough rest and making relatively intelligent decisions about the food I eat makes me less anxious.

    Face the fear. 

    Ignoring fear doesn’t make it go away.  It only makes the fear bigger and scarier.  If I face the fear, articulate it, it shrinks it to something more manageable.  Not gonna lie… This is hard. Sometimes I have to do face fears over and over again.  If I can’t find context for my fear then it helps to talk to someone.

    Today’s Silver Lining: I’m learning day by day, sometimes hour by hour, how to be stronger.       

    What’s your silver lining today?  I love comments!

    Don’t want to leave a comment, but have something you want to share?  Send me an email at gettingthewordswrong(at)gmail(dot)com.


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  1. Tina says:

    Book marking this one. Advice that works is so many situations!

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