• Finding Peace During a Difficult Week


    It’s been a difficult week. Normal mom stuff (cleaning the same thing twenty times a day, sick kids, summer boredom) have all piled on. Also, the approach of my one year cancer-versary has me very sad and stressed out. About this time last year my world turned upside down with a single phone call.

    When I get overwhelmed there are a few things that help.

    1. Doing things with the kids outside the house. When I’m out with them, feeling two small hands gripping each of my own, I feel like I can do anything.

    2. Having a project to work on. I thought that project would be the blog book but after re-reading all three hundred days of posts, I think it might be too soon. Those posts aren’t easy to look at. I’ve been having bad dreams about the cancer returning, losing my hair and waking up missing body parts. So… different project for now.

    3. Keeping busy. I like having a master To Do list. On it are things like cleaning closets, organizing cabinets, and cleaning out freezers. These are tangible actions that keep me moving and my mind occupied.

    4. Talking to someone. I talked to the counselor I saw during treatment. She reminded me that it hasn’t been that long since I finished treatment (only two and a half months). She urged me to give myself time to deal with all the emotions that I didn’t allow myself time for during treatment. She also reminded me that there is a grieving period for who I used to be before cancer and I won’t always feel this way. Talking to her helped because she knew just what to say and it helps to have an impartial party to unload on.

    5. Routines. I am a creature of habit. I try to keep daily routines as much as my kids being home for the summer will allow. For instance, my morning routine (get up, have coffee, write, workout) anchors my day. Without regular routines I feel lost.

    6. Don’t try to control too much. So the dishes didn’t get done or I ate an extra piece of pizza when I intended to eat a salad. So what? In the grand scheme these aren’t a big deal and are not worth feeling stressed out over.

    7. Exercise. This is thirty blissful minutes of no thinking. No one can think during a drop set. No one. Also, it helps to offset that extra pizza.

    What do you do when you’re feeling stressed out? I love comments!



8 Responsesso far.

  1. Shannon Lien says:

    I have really enjoyed your posts, getting to know you better through your thoughts and feelings. You are an amazingly strong woman who I completely admire.

    I’m a stress eater. I’m probably even a stress drinker…ha! But, working out is my saving grace when I am about to pull my hair out from daily life chaos.

  2. Mom says:

    I I was kind of afraid to read this part of your blog. We had already talked a little about this week but I like to think positive. Here I am trying to walk all by myself again and remember telling someone this morning that you had cancer and were in remission. I cant say I was thrilled talking about it but everyone wishes the best for you. I’m not in your shoes so I don’t know how to feel the same way you do but you are still my Meghan and not one damn thing can stop that. You’re wonderful, brave, beautiful, crazy, loving and much more besides being skinny! I love you! Mom

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  4. Liz says:

    I breathe. I’ve heard from People Who Know Things that the body releases stress when you do deep exhales. So I breathe in, and then woooosh – away with ye stresses!

    And then of course, once the stress is gone, there’s room for happy thoughts like exciting new projects, and happy things to do like being outside!

  5. Brian says:

    This blog post is very timely for us. My wife just reached the half way point in her treatment plan and has a particularly tough couple of weeks. Something that I have found to be helpful (for both of us) is just acknowledging the struggle and the stress. It’s ok to slow down and just breath. And you are so right. The dishes can wait!

    • Meghan says:

      Brian, congratulations to your wife for being half way done! I know it’s hard on everyone involved. Yes, definitely take time to breathe. Take it all one day at a time, one step at a time. She’ll get there. ~Meghan

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