It’s been a difficult week. Normal mom stuff (cleaning the same thing twenty times a day, sick kids, summer boredom) have all piled on. Also, the approach of my one year cancer-versary has me very sad and stressed out. About this time last year my world turned upside down with a single phone call.
When I get overwhelmed there are a few things that help.
1. Doing things with the kids outside the house. When I’m out with them, feeling two small hands gripping each of my own, I feel like I can do anything.
2. Having a project to work on. I thought that project would be the blog book but after re-reading all three hundred days of posts, I think it might be too soon. Those posts aren’t easy to look at. I’ve been having bad dreams about the cancer returning, losing my hair and waking up missing body parts. So… different project for now.
3. Keeping busy. I like having a master To Do list. On it are things like cleaning closets, organizing cabinets, and cleaning out freezers. These are tangible actions that keep me moving and my mind occupied.
4. Talking to someone. I talked to the counselor I saw during treatment. She reminded me that it hasn’t been that long since I finished treatment (only two and a half months). She urged me to give myself time to deal with all the emotions that I didn’t allow myself time for during treatment. She also reminded me that there is a grieving period for who I used to be before cancer and I won’t always feel this way. Talking to her helped because she knew just what to say and it helps to have an impartial party to unload on.
5. Routines. I am a creature of habit. I try to keep daily routines as much as my kids being home for the summer will allow. For instance, my morning routine (get up, have coffee, write, workout) anchors my day. Without regular routines I feel lost.
6. Don’t try to control too much. So the dishes didn’t get done or I ate an extra piece of pizza when I intended to eat a salad. So what? In the grand scheme these aren’t a big deal and are not worth feeling stressed out over.
7. Exercise. This is thirty blissful minutes of no thinking. No one can think during a drop set. No one. Also, it helps to offset that extra pizza.
What do you do when you’re feeling stressed out? I love comments!